Humans have a basic instinct to reproduce. All species in the world evolve and reproduce in order for their species to survive for a long time. They adapt to the environment, use the environment, and evolve with each generation to suit the environment. The same goes for humans. In the beginning, humans used tools because their strength was weaker than that of other animals. In order to use tools, both hands had to be free. To do so, they chose to walk on two feet instead of on four, thereby freeing both hands.
And in order to maintain the species for a long time, men looked for women who would give birth to their healthy children, and women also looked for men who were healthier and had better genes. In the past, a good man was good at hunting, strong enough to protect himself and his children, and a good man was a good man. But in modern society, hunting is no longer meaningful. Then, protecting yourself and your children is based on excellent economic power. If my man has a stable job and high economic power, this means he will be a great man who was good at hunting in the past and will not starve himself and his children.
In modern society, women who only look at men's economic power are criticized. Is there really any reason to criticize it? From a woman's perspective, it is a long-standing human instinct to be attracted to a man who will keep her and her children safe and not starve. I want a man with a high level of economic power who can protect me with good food and a safe home, and who can raise my children well.
Conversely, can you blame a man who only wants pretty, young women? It is the same as the story above. Men also want a healthy woman who will reproduce their genes well. And what is the standard for a woman who will inherit my genes in a healthy way? She is a young and beautiful woman. This is also a long-standing human instinct. Women want a man who can keep them and their children safe and raise them, while men, on the other hand, want a healthy, young woman who will continue their generation. This is an animal instinct that has been passed down for thousands of years for the reproduction of not only humans but all species.
However, even in today's society, we cannot only talk about these human instincts of the past. If in the past it was the instinct of humans or animals to pass on generations, and if it was a duty rather than a duty, it is not now. Nowadays, I think it is more important for humans to live as humans. There are cases where past generations criticize the MZ generation, but as times change, human thoughts change. In the past, there was the concept of lifelong employment by working at a good job for a long time, but these days, job changes are frequent. I am moving to a company that suits me better and matches my life values. Just having a higher salary is not a prerequisite for changing jobs. If I value work-life balance more, I will move to a job that can maintain my work-life balance even if the pay is low.
In addition, men are no longer limited to the role of the head of the family to support their families, but are now enjoying their own lives and realizing the values that are important to them. For women, dual income is no longer the duty of pregnancy, childbirth, and childcare, but is taken for granted, and women are no longer expected to act as mothers. She lives by realizing her values as a human being, not as a mother, and realizing her job and values as a human being, not as a mother.
Generational conflict is a natural process that occurs as generations change.
In the patriarchal society of the past, we are now in an era where dual incomes are required, and men are no longer in a generation where they only devote themselves to their families and work, but they also work and live their own lives, and women also live their own lives, not just as mothers. And there is life. In light of this, it is not right to criticize a man for not devoting himself to the family, such as saying that a woman goes around without taking care of her children at home. The correct answer from the past generation is being forced on a new generation to say that since I was like this, you should be like this too. Of course, starting a family means having a duty. If I live alone as I want, it is right not to get married. Getting married means having responsibilities and obligations in your life, not in your own life. The words responsibility and obligation are inseparable. Obligations are naturally necessary to fulfill responsibilities. If you start a family and only insist on your rights without fulfilling your duties as a husband and wife, all that will remain is quarrels and hatred towards each other.
Whether you are in a romantic relationship or a marriage, you always need to be considerate of things that you cannot do alone. If you try to understand each other, be considerate, and give in, marital conflict or quarrels between lovers will decrease. Trying to do everything you want but trying to be with someone who hates it is like giving hell to that other person.
