What should I do to make my romantic relationship last long?
When I think about the first time I saw that woman, I can just hold her hand or just look at her face and walk side by side. Of course, the same applies to women. The moment you walk down the street with that man, the moment you hold his hand and talk to him, your heart flutters. They are happy and the whole world is focused on that person. However, as time passes, emotions fade and quarrels become more frequent. And we break up. Why was it so nice to just hold hands and walk together, but then we end up fighting and eventually breaking up?
The moment a man likes a woman, everything in the world becomes focused on the woman. Of course, there are people who don't like that, but if that's the case, it means that the man doesn't like the woman enough. If your boyfriend focuses less on you, treats you less well, and you feel that he doesn't love you enough, the correct answer is what he feels. Then the man doesn't really like the woman. In this case, if a man does not really like a woman in his heart, but can make the woman feel that she is greatly loved, such a person is called a player.
Going back to the beginning, when a man first likes a woman, he puts a lot of effort into winning her heart. They give small gifts, listen to the woman's daily life, and empathize with her. And I plan to spend time together by going to the woman's favorite restaurant or cafe with a nice atmosphere. And he wants to go on trips with women and have a deeper relationship with them. A lot of effort goes into this process for men. And when the relationship develops to the level the man wants, the man will love the woman very much. However, because so much energy was expended in getting to this point, I am very exhausted about the relationship after that. So, when the efforts she made for herself are no longer visible like before, the woman will say to the man, ‘I have changed,’ and the man will say, ‘What have I changed?’ and a fight will begin.
One of two things happens to a woman when a man she didn't like at first treats her well. Either you are not interested at all, or you start to open your heart little by little. As you open your mind little by little, you will no longer dislike this man's invitations to date, and when you go out, you will often go to delicious restaurants and cafes with a nice atmosphere. In this process, the woman adapts. If it becomes a routine to spend time with this person every weekend, I don't know if I like this person, but this routine isn't a bad thing. And there are people who call me pretty, say nice things to me, talk about my daily life, and accept my complaints, so I come to rely on them without even realizing it.
But problems arise over time.
Men no longer have the energy left to exert as much as they used to. It's no longer bothersome to listen to my girlfriend's stories or behind-the-scenes conversations with people at her company whose faces I don't even know. And I want to have a simple bowl of soup and go out with friends comfortably, but I still want to go to pretty restaurants and cafes with a nice atmosphere. It's boring for men to sit in a cafe, take pictures, and carry on a conversation that doesn't lead to an answer. The woman feels that the man has changed. you're right. A man is no longer a man who tried to win my heart, but now he wants to become a valuable person to his girlfriend.
As time goes by, women also stop going to good restaurants or new cafes for their men and instead stick to familiar date courses. Even if I dress up pretty and wear new clothes with excitement, my date routine is now the same. If that happens, you won't be able to show a bright expression due to disappointment throughout the date, and the man will ask why you look like that. Women don't say much because talking about this or that will only lead to arguments. And they return to their homes with each other's feelings hurt.
This is the same pattern that most couples follow before they break up.
If we don't understand each other at this time, all that's left is separation. From a man's point of view, he should feel grateful and cherish the woman who opened her heart in response to my efforts to show affection for him. You should think back to when she first looked really pretty and think of the happy moments you felt just by holding her hand. A common mistake made by men is that as time goes by, this woman has grown to like me and is now mine. However, even if we met today, she changed her mind on the way home and with a single word of breaking up, she will become a stranger starting tomorrow. What you can do is a romantic relationship. Then I thought the man was mine, but I don't understand why I'm breaking up with him. This is because, in the woman's opinion, the man she was with at the time who made her open her heart is different from the man she is now. The person I am breaking up with is not the man who was trying to win my heart back then, but the man who takes me for granted now.
A woman should be grateful for a man who listens to her stories about her meaningless day and work. In fact, men don't really care what a woman did at work, what people she talked to, or what she ate. What a man is interested in is his girlfriend herself. When a man talks on the phone with his girlfriend after work, they don't want to talk about each other. Hearing what happened at work all day and what conflicts she had with her colleagues or sisters is the start of a new job. . This makes it very tiring for men to talk to women on the phone.
In order for a man and a woman to maintain a long-term romantic relationship, they need to understand each other. Childhood relationships are always full of failure. Because they were young, they did not understand that each other was different, and they lacked effort to understand others. To understand means to understand that you are different from me. If my girlfriend does something I like, I should try to do something she likes. Conversely, if my boyfriend makes an effort to do something for me, I should also try to do something for my boyfriend. You need to know that your girlfriend is not someone who caters to you and that you can do whatever you want, and that your boyfriend is not someone who sacrifices himself for you and only looks out for you.
The phrase ‘I should have done better when I had it’ always comes to mind when I think of a breakup. However, humans do not really feel its importance when it is always there. In order for a romantic relationship to last for a long time, you must be good at it when you have it, and you must always be grateful for its preciousness.
